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Member Profile: Manish_Sri
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"Trying to Make Sense "
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I am a:
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40-year-old Man (Single)
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Located in:
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Rotterdam, Netherlands |
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Seeking a:
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Woman (20 to 60) |
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Friendship, Dating, Serious Relationship, Marriage |
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Spirituality:
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Other |
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| About Me
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I am fascinated by the world of ideas. I would be interested in engaging story. Reminds me of partnership between Daniel Kahneman Amos Tversky. Someone who can be female version of Hugo Mercier. I like to talk to people from different countries to help me not get stuck with certain kind of view and to understand how different people on the earth differ in their thinking. I really like when people people have something to say which is different from what I can imagine or in general they have something interesting to talk.
I have made many mistakes, I can trace them to my habit of being judgemental and avoiding uncertainty. It is important to be slow but observant and rigorous, rather than being fast and having illusion of being right. Illusion of having an answer or being correct is very unhealthy. Because whole purpose is lost that way.
I guess, I like females who are presentable, have empathy, emotional depth. Ability for critical thinking attracts me. I would like to know people, to learn more about what they think, and how world inside their head works. I think it is safer to do that from distance, then we know a lot through emails. Thing with emails is after a few mails I can know the person.
I am called Manish, live Rotterdam, Netherlands; did master from TU Delft in 2015. Work in the field of ocean engineering (ships and offshore platforms), worked in merchant navy in past.
I have obsession with perfection in thinking, I like to understand cognitive illusions. I have an appetite for seeing patterns in everyday life and a lot of things. Feeling is not equal to doing and feelings/intuition are not always a good evidence. Same is true for many of our core beliefs, such as action and reward, goodness, love-hate. I want to develop more of mathematics like precision and logic, in harmony with feelings, emotions, values; if needed overriding them.
I like works of Vivekananda, Adaivata Vedanta, Upanishad, Darwin, Dawkins, Sam Harris, Kahneman, Daniel Dennet, David Hume, Aristotle, V S Naipaul, William James etc. Keep going through them whenever I get time. I like poems of Charles Bukowski, and novels of Premchand.
I don't have many close friends, I think it is hard to keep company of a person like me who is mostly inside the mind. But I can be interesting company for some people I guess. I do have good working relation with many people.
We all have a mechanism inside our minds which judges everything all the time, we have much confidence in our beliefs and we feel we know what all is there to know. But I am still in the process of discovering myself. I have a lot to do. I often feel hazy and bit confused but my passion to move forward and to find meaning is alive. My efforts have direction.
I like stories, metaphors. I like to watch documentaries, cook, ruminate, read, write, or study in areas of my technical interest.
I might be self centered person in some ways but I do try to open myself under my limited ability to endure changes. When we have fixed stories in our minds then we are like many cultures and societies, denying a lot more than accepting and endowing. Sometimes I can devote good deal of time for other people and go far beyond normal formalities if it makes sense to me.
I take religion as a guiding philosophy. I value my Sanatan roots and intend to nurture my Dharmik tendencies. I hope to relearn Sanskrit, to be able to get better of books. I believe that animals feel happiness and pain like us. That makes me vegetarian.
I am non-conformist, but responsible. I am humble as a person, but I insist on facts, always ready to discuss/debate. I don't care about social acceptance.
I think life starts at 30-40. Until 30 human beings are immature. Cycle of body is at peak between 20-40 but cycle of mind only starts at 30 and peaks at 50-55 or so. I am still thinking, and experimenting. It is future that interests me more. Time seems to be running out fast, with so many things to do and think in life. If I die premature, my biggest regret would be books I bought, which I wanted to read, understand but couldn't read. I want to be in good shape in that period to be able to do my best in this life. I don't want to waste that potential to adapt to ways of the world. I don't want to waste myself in ignorance and meaningless subjects, although that happens a lot with me.
Most of my time (after work) is spent in thinking, reading etc. I wish to meet someone who also has a interesting story to tell, even if it is story full of pain or failure; story is important. I think having goals and right problems requires a lot of ability. But it is not a pain, people without goal and thought process often live routine lives and are more susceptible to evil things. Water in flow is cleaner than water in pond. That requires lot of passion and imagination, to be able to keep inventing new stories every day in life. That is the kind of life that interests me. It also takes a lot to sit down and endure pain when nothing can be done.
At this point in life (age of 30-40) a person must have some goal, it can not be just to think nothing, enjoy drinks, food, gossip. That doesn't require any thinking or intelligence, Or it can be something else which does not come naturally. I usually get bored with people if they have nothing critical or interesting to talk about. I tried going to bars and talks on weekends but i found most people had nothing interesting to talk about. They were more like bored people trying to relieve themselves with light gossip and fun. I find a better company in books. Initially I am respectful and curious but after a while my nature and questions come up. I see people playing snookers or card and I feel I can't do this.
I am always transparent. I think transparency is most important when being in friendship or any kind of relationship. Without transparency we can never be sure about anything, any of the values of other person. Kindness is important, as without kindness there would be nothing in the person worth seeing.
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Basics
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My Sign:
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Aquarius |
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I speak:
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English |
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Occupation:
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Engineer |
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Education:
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Graduate Degree |
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Annual Income:
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$75,001 to $100,000 |
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Ethnicity:
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South Asian |
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Height:
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5 10" (178 cm)
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Body Type:
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Average |
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Eye Color:
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Black |
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Hair Color:
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Black |
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Hair Length:
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Short |
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Lifestyle
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I live with:
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Live alone |
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Have kids:
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No |
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Want (more) children:
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Leave Blank |
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Willing To Relocate:
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Maybe
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Diet:
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Vegetarian |
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Smoking:
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No |
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Drinking:
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No |
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Exercise:
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exercise regularly |
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How I spend my free time:
- Reading, Watching documentary, Animal Life videos.
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| Personality
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My Personality:
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Adventurous, Introverted, Caring
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I'm happiest when:
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I have spent my day well, and have been able to concentrate fully.
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Interests
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My interests, hobbies, and pastimes include...
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History, Politics, Reading, Science, Volunteering, Writing
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The physical activities I'm interested in are:
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Running
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My favorite books:
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Favorite author William James
Like the series: Great Books of the Western World.
Modern: Daniel Kahneman, Daniel Dennet, Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris.
Indians: Tagore, Vivekananda, Savarkar, Chatursen Shashtri, Annie Beasant etc.
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Values
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The virtues I consider most important are...
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Empathy, Humility, Honesty
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My goals, and what I want out of life...
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At the moment want to read, to understand, to make progress in my technical interests and career, to have some money, to travel/explore, to observe.
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Spirituality
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Other
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What brought me to my spiritual path and motivated my interest...
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I don't understand spirituality much. But I like spiritual people. I think they are making an attempt to understand and are more sincere than people who think or do nothing.
I try to get some perspective, observe the possible ways of seeing the questions which come to my mind.
Some poet said: " There is depth in this heart, reason can never lead you to that. with reason you can only understand the superficial, only heart can get you to depths of the ocean."
I am very skeptical of such sayings. I think this world and universe cannot be understood by emotions alone. Emotions and intuition developed in the quest for survival in a particular history of the genes. These were not universal enablers or universal truth.
I think we need emotion and feelings because that powers us, but we also need reason so that we can put that energy into right direction.
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Who I'm Looking For
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I'm seeking a:
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Woman (20 to 60)
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Ethnicity:
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Any
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Height:
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4' 6" to 6' 6" (137cm to 198cm)
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Body Type:
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Any
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Hair Color:
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Any
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She should speak:
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English
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Education:
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Doesn't Matter
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Annual Income:
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Doesn't Matter
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Smoking:
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Doesn't Matter
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Drinking:
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Doesn't Matter
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Vegetarian:
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Doesn't Matter
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Has children:
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Doesn't Matter
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Wants children:
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Doesn't Matter
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Personality:
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Doesn't Matter
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When out with friends, she would be...
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Doesn't Matter
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Any
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