dharmaMatch Member Profile: anicca.k

anicca.k

"Seeking a kind-hearted partner to play and grow together on the path"
I am a:	53-year-old Woman (Single)
Located in:	Headington, England (United Kingdom)
Seeking a:	Man (48 to 60)
For:	Friendship, Serious Relationship
Spirituality:	Buddhist, Humanist, Spiritual, not religious

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About Me

I split my time between Asia and the UK, spending a few months in each. Long-term, I’m open to settling in the UK or Europe — I have the freedom to choose so and I’m exploring where feels most at home.

I’m here for a real in person connection — not looking for hookups, penpals, or virtual buddies. I’m drawn to people with thoughtful minds and open hearts.

I'd describe myself as: a not-yet enlightened being with a good heart, honest and straightforward, fun-loving with balanced spontaneity, intelligent enough, multicultural, well-travelled with an international outlook. I am a resourceful problem-solver, naturally curious, and very open-minded.

I love nature and animals, enjoy kayaking/canoeing, slow hiking, cooking, and occasional photography.

I am into early Buddhism as a practice and life philosophy, my main practices are Satipatthana, Brahmavihara, and Insight Dialogue. A free-thinker.

I have a good steady job but am ready to leave in a short few years as I hope to focus on mindfulness practice (and sharing the practice if the conditions are right) for the rest of my life. Where and how to live and with whom then is the not knowing part :) I am open to suggestions.

What relationship I am looking for?

I see a good intimate relationship as a life partnership of two fun-loving imperfect humans with good hearts and good intentions, who are committed to supporting each other's growth and radiating goodness in this world.

Basics

My Sign:	Libra
I speak:	English
Occupation:	In academia
Education:	PhD/Post Doctoral
Ethnicity:	Asian

Height:	5 2" (157 cm)
Body Type:	Slender
Eye Color:	Brown
Hair Color:	Dark Brown
Hair Length:	Shoulder

Lifestyle

I live with:	Live alone
Have kids:	No
Want (more) children:	No
Willing To Relocate:	Yes

Diet:	Vegetarian, Health Food Nut, A Little of Everything
Smoking:	No
Drinking:	No
Exercise:	exercise occasionally

Personality

My Personality:: Caring, Creative, Adventurous
I'm happiest when:: in nature, creating something beautiful, with cats, preparing and enjoying meals with my loved ones, and in meaningful conversations.
The things that annoy me are:: knowing what it is but not yet able to be at peace with dukkha.
If I could have dinner with any three people, they would be:: Siddhartha Gautama, to learn first-hand the direct path to awakening.

Interests

My interests, hobbies, and pastimes include...: Board Games, Cooking, Crafts, Movies, Music (listening), Painting & Drawing, Photography, Reading, Science, Travel, Volunteering
The physical activities I'm interested in are:: Camping, Dancing, Hiking/Backpacking, Swimming, Walking
My favorite movies:: Every Day a Good Day, The Quiet Girl, all Miyazaki movies
Matrix, Moon, The Man from Earth, What Dreams May Come
TV: Battlestar Galactica, Doll House, Lost, Friends, Pride and Prejudice

I enjoy watching dance performances, my favourites are Cloud Gate Dance Theatre, the Royal Ballet, and Flamenco.
My favorite books:: The pile next to my bed:
A whole life path
Kindfulness
Dipa Ma
Behave: the biology of humans at our best and worst
Irreducible mind: Toward a psychology for the 21st century
In the realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction
The self illusion
How emotions are made

Recently read:
Dipa Ma, Insight Dialogue, A whole-life path, Thich Nanh Han, Mary Oliver, Rumi, Naomi Shihab Nye, the School of life library

All-time favourites:
George Orwell, On Liberty, Edward Said, Babylon Revisited, Jane Austen, Sanmao, Lung Ying-Tai, Jimmy Spa

Values

The virtues I consider most important are...: Honesty, Compassion, Open-Mindedness
The things I'm most grateful for in life are...: . being human, alive and conscious, and having access to the teachings of the awakened.
. meaningful connections with loved ones.
. this beautiful planet.
My goals, and what I want out of life...: Practise Mindfulness, specifically, Sati Sampajañña and Brahmavihārā, for the cultivation of wisdom and compassion. Wisdom is not deep without compassion, so it is one thing. I believe it is the panacea for everything, it's not if, but when the conditions are right.
My greatest accomplishments in life have been...: . that I become a better human than yesterday/year/decade.
. forgiveness and gratefulness.
Five or ten years from now, I see myself...: I hope I have another 40 healthy years to learn and grow, and to help whenever I can.

--- I absolutely love Steph Davis' philosophy of life: ---
"You have to do what feels right, what lights you up. Do your best always. Conserve. Never waste anything. You can only have what you can carry: choose it carefully, make it last, take care of it. Appreciate what you have for as long as you have it. Be ready to do without it. No matter what happens, deal with it. Adapt, instantly when necessary. Take care of yourself. Try to help. A lot of times you fail, sometimes you succeed. Either way, you're never the whole reason for it."
My political inclination can be described as...: Liberal

Spirituality

Spiritual Orientation:: Buddhist, Humanist, Spiritual, not religious
I consider my spirituality...: The central focus of my life
What brought me to my spiritual path and motivated my interest...: suffering and the cessation of suffering.
I consider the purpose of my spirituality to be...: Connecting to something greater than myself, Finding happiness and peace within, Helping me cope with the struggles of life, Helping me grow as a person
After the body dies...: The soul reincarnates until achieving Liberation
The spiritual books and authors that have had the greatest impact on me...: Upul Nishantha Gamage, Godwin Samararatne, Bhikkhu Anālayo, Sayadaw U Tejaniya, Dipa Ma, Pema Chödrön, Thich Nhat Hanh, Gregory Kramer.

Who I'm Looking For

I'm seeking a:: Man (48 to 60)
Ethnicity:
Height:: 5' 2" to 8' 0" (157cm to 244cm)
Body Type:
Hair Color:
He should speak:: English
Education:
Annual Income:
Smoking:: No
Drinking:
Vegetarian:: Doesn't Matter
Has children:
Wants children:
Personality:: Doesn't Matter
When out with friends, he would be...
Spiritual Orientation:: Agnostic, Buddhist, Humanist, Spiritual, not religious