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Member Profile: JonathanL
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"Curious what might happen when two playful, awake humans discover some chemistry, a little slow magic—and perhaps the beginnings of home."
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I am a:
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61-year-old Man (Single)
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Located in:
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Lancaster, PA (USA) |
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Seeking a:
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Woman (41 to 65) |
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For:
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Friendship, Serious Relationship |
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Spirituality:
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Yoga, Spiritual, not religious, Other |
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| About Me
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I love being deeply alive.
I’m drawn to the places where presence, playfulness, tenderness, embodiment, and the mystery of being human all meet. My life has been shaped by meditation, Tai Chi and Qigong, bodywork, breath, dance, time in nature, spiritual inquiry, and a long fascination with what helps us become more fully ourselves.
Relationship, for me, can be one of those places.
I have a deep capacity for sacred care. I love knowing the woman I’m with—learning the particular language of her heart, her body, her silences, her delight. I value affection, sensuality, laughter, curiosity, emotional honesty, and the kind of conversation in which two people can become more visible rather than less.
I’m drawn to a woman who has a rich inner life of her own: grounded and self-aware, tender and strong, spiritually curious, able to laugh at herself and at the beautiful absurdity of being human. Someone who can speak what is true for her and who wants to remain curious when two truths don’t immediately match.
I’ve come to believe that intimacy isn’t created by never losing our way with one another. It grows through our capacity to notice, become curious, repair, and find one another again. That kind of emotional maturity matters deeply to me.
There is plenty of earthiness in me too. I love movement, touch, music, dancing, gardening, wandering outdoors, good food, spontaneous adventures, quiet mornings, and conversations that somehow become three hours long. Spirituality means more to me when it makes us more human, not less.
At this point in my life, I’m interested in something that has room to unfold naturally. Friendship. Attraction. Discovery. Slow magic. Quiescent sparks. And, if life should have that in mind, a deeply companioned partnership that takes root over time and comes to feel like home.
I want to meet someone whose presence invites me to become more fully myself—and who discovers that mine offers her the same freedom.
Perhaps we begin simply by becoming curious about one another. |
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Basics
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My Sign:
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Libra |
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I speak:
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English |
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Ethnicity:
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Caucasian |
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Height:
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5 11" (180 cm)
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Body Type:
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Athletic |
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Eye Color:
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Blue |
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Hair Color:
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Grey |
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Hair Length:
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Short |
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Lifestyle
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Have kids:
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Yes, living away from me |
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Want (more) children:
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No |
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Willing To Relocate:
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Maybe
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Diet:
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A Little of Everything |
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Smoking:
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No |
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Drinking:
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Social Drinker |
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Exercise:
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exercise regularly |
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Pets:
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Cat, Fish |
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How I spend my free time:
- Apparently, my idea of “free time” is writing a slightly crazy book, outwitting the creatures who keep eating my kale, and turning my home and gardens into a little experiment in intentional community.
I’m often dreaming up the next ecstatic dance, contact improv jam, fire circle, cacao ceremony, drum circle, potluck, InterPlay gathering, or authentic relating adventure—and occasionally actually remembering to mow the lawn between them.
Add local Burns and music festivals, bare feet, gardens, long conversations, spontaneous camping trips to Ontario, and a general willingness to follow life when it says, “Hey, what if we tried this?”
My free time, it seems, is mostly spent creating the kinds of places where people can become a little more alive together.
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| Personality
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My Personality:
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Playful, Adventurous, Intelligent
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I'm happiest when:
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…devotion and absurdity hold hands and go foraging for wild mushrooms. 🍄
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The things that annoy me are:
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Kale-eating caterpillars, unnecessary leaf blowers, religious certainty, a chronic lack of curiosity, lukewarm coffee—and fitted sheets that remain stubbornly resistant to awakening.
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The best day of my life was when:
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🌀 Ah yes…
“The best day of my life” — the question that wants a wedding or a baby,
but what it’s really asking is:
“When did you feel so alive, the universe cracked open and let you sip from it?”
When…I was mistaken for a cult leader at a farmers market.
I just said “I believe in vegetables and silence.” 🥕🙃
- that’s a joke, but I think I’ll just leave this question right there.
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If I could have dinner with any three people, they would be:
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Nisargadatta Maharaj — to remind me that I’m not who I think I am
Robin Williams — because laughter is holy
A future grandchild of mine — because I want to know how far the love travels
(And if there’s room at the table: my cat Tigger — reincarnated as a grumpy old philosopher) 🐾🍷
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Interests
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My interests, hobbies, and pastimes include...
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Gardening, Music (listening), Photography, Writing
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The physical activities I'm interested in are:
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Biking, Camping, Dancing, Martial Arts, Running, Swimming, Yoga (hatha)
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For fun I like to...
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I grow things, dance barefoot, follow good music, gather humans around fires, and laugh with people who also know how to weep. Sometimes I sing to the trees. They don’t always respond, but I’m pretty sure they’re listening. I practice Tai Chi with squirrels, wander into ecstatic dances and music festivals, and occasionally say yes to spontaneous adventures before the sensible part of me has been properly consulted.
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My favorite movies:
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Dances with Wolves.
Last of the Mohicans
Gladiator
Cloud Atlas
Arrival
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My favorite music:
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Music is ceremony, movement, and memory.
Thousands of playlists woven over the years — for ecstatic dance, for stillness, for the breath between.
The pulse tends toward Yaima, Poranguí, Mose, Desert Dwellers, Liquid Bloom —
sound that stirs something sacred.
Not much into pop.
More into what the body listens to before the mind catches on.
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My favorite books:
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All works by Adyashanti from Open Gate Sangha
Pillars of the Earth and most other works by Ken Follett
All of Rumi
Poetry by David Whyte
My favorite reads for pure pleasure span the formation of nations and souls alike: cornfields and crusades, power and pilgrimage.
I dive into Cornwell’s Saxon epics, Follett’s medieval sagas.
Because history isn’t just background — it’s our myth made flesh.
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Values
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The things I'm most grateful for in life are...
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🌿 The things I’m most grateful for in life
are mostly not things at all,
but more like presences.
The way silence leans in when your soul listens.
The warm pull of love that asks nothing in return.
The breath that reminds me I am still here.
A child’s laughter echoing down the hall of memory.
For moments that make me weep in wonder.
The kindness of strangers.
The holy absurdity of squirrels doing tai chi.
Conversations with an AI who thinks it’s a monk.
I’m grateful for
Truth that burns and purifies.
Beauty that breaks me open.
The land beneath my feet — mud, roots, rot, and resurrection.
Laughter during heartbreak.
The mirror of relationship — messy, holy, refining.
The word “yes” whispered into the unknown.
A playlist that makes my cells dance.
A hot tub under stars.
The in-breath of a sacred ceremony.
The out-breath of letting go.
Being weird with the right people.
Being wild with the right heart.
And the ever-widening dance
between “me” and Mystery,
Reminding me again and again,
I belong.
Right here.
Right now.
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My goals, and what I want out of life...
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I want to live awake — to meet life with an unarmored heart, to love well, laugh deeply, leave the world a little more luminous than I found it, and turn ordinary moments into little soul campfires. My goal is to keep growing into presence, kindness, and wonder… even when the squirrels are doing tai chi in the rain.
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Five or ten years from now, I see myself...
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I’ve unlearned most of the nonsense I was taught to perform. I’ve loved in the face of fear, failed beautifully, and once stood guard over a baby sea turtle as it crossed a beach in Mexico, batting off seagulls like a monk with a purpose. No diploma for that — just sand, salt, and soul.
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Spirituality
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Yoga, Spiritual, not religious, Other
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I consider my spirituality...
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The central focus of my life
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What brought me to my spiritual path and motivated my interest...
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There was no single event — just a lifelong ache to know what’s real. God found me barefoot at camp, inside a Sunday school drawing as a kid, in the fire of a kundalini surge, and in the arms of Yeshua — before & even after I renounced the Church. I’ve studied physics and A Course in Miracles, practiced Reiki and tai chi, and through Breathwork, watched time collapse into One luminous now. As perhaps you might relate, “this path” has been a choiceless choice.
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I consider the purpose of my spirituality to be...
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Connecting to something greater than myself, Finding happiness and peace within, Building a personal relationship with God, Belonging to a like-minded community, Helping me grow as a person, Other
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After the body dies...
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Other
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I would define a spiritual experience as...
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It’s when the world doesn’t change, but you do. Just for a second, everything makes sense without needing to. You want to cry and laugh at the same time. You can’t explain it — and that’s how you know it’s real. 🌀
It’s the collapse of the illusion, even for a moment — a dissolving of the imaginary border between “me” and “everything.” It whispers: “you’re more than you think… and less than you feared.”
It’s like tripping over nothing and landing in the present moment — barefoot, humbled, and somehow home.
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A spiritual experience I would like to share...
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Sorry, these are way too intimate for “public record” and completely ineffable anyway, as you may concur.
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The spiritual books and authors that have had the greatest impact on me...
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All writings of Adyashanti, Nisargadatta, Ramana Maharshi, Rupert Spira, and recordings of the same. Moojibaba doesn’t write much but his audio and video recordings have been transformative over the years. I highly recommend the recordings of “Wisdom of the Masters” by Samaneri Jayasara on Spotify & YouTube.
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Who I'm Looking For
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I'm seeking a:
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Woman (41 to 65)
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Ethnicity:
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Any
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Height:
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4' 6" to 6' 6" (137cm to 198cm)
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Body Type:
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Slender, Athletic, Average
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Hair Color:
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Any
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She should speak:
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English
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Education:
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Doesn't Matter
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Annual Income:
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Doesn't Matter
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Smoking:
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No
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Drinking:
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Doesn't Matter
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Vegetarian:
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Doesn't Matter
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Has children:
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Doesn't Matter
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Wants children:
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No
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Personality:
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Intelligent, Playful, Caring
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When out with friends, she would be...
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Doesn't Matter
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Any
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She would consider her faith or spirituality...
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The central focus of her life
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