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Member Profile: Peaceful
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"Warm, genuine, engaged with emotions and aging elegantly"
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I am a:
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71-year-old Man (Widowed)
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Located in:
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SACRAMENTO, CA (USA) |
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Seeking a:
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Woman (65 to 72) |
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For:
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Dating, Serious Relationship |
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Spirituality:
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Buddhist, Hindu, Jain, Spiritual, not religious |
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| About Me
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I’m retired from biomedical sciences and a widower after 41+ years of marriage. As a thoughtful, grounded and financially savvy man, I values kindness, meaningful connection and life's quiet joys. Friends describe me as insightful and dependable - someone who listens and cares sincerely. I think companionship should bring peace, warmth, and inspiration to both hearts. Together, I’d like to build a lasting relationship - steady, joyful, and real.
I blend emotional intelligence with introspection and intuitiveness. My heart walks softly in memory land, and mind flows through purpose and meaning in life. I am a soulful translator of silence, and a romantic storyteller shaped by two continents 10,000 miles apart - bridging languages, time and love, sharing a life lived deeply. With tender heart and seeking mind, I turn sorrow into wisdom and love into light.
Buddhism is a way of life - “middle way,” which originated 2,500+ years ago, and I feel it has influence in my life. I attend weekly Insight Meditation and some of the day-long meditation retreats in Sacramento. I also attended a 4-day residential meditation retreat in Spirit Rock, Woodacre, CA. I grew up surrounded by four major eastern religions and have exposure to western religions. I value spirituality and humanity. "Yesterday, I followed religions and obeyed beliefs and rituals. Today, I kneel to truth, follow only beauty, and obey only love."
I’m looking for a warm, compassionate woman whose strengths and vulnerabilities complement my own so we can build something steady and harmonious together. Someone kind-hearted, open-minded, and ready for a relationship built on trust, humor, and mutual respect, who appreciates both meaningful conversation and simple shared moments. I believe love can grow beautifully - with and beyond romance, at any stage of life when two people bring sincerity, laughter, and gentle care to each other’s days. |
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Basics
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My Sign:
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Virgo |
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I speak:
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English, Hindi, Gujrati |
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Occupation:
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Retired, Professor, Director-R&D Biotech, Director-Internal Medicine Research |
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Education:
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PhD/Post Doctoral |
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Annual Income:
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$75,001 to $100,000 |
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Ethnicity:
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South Asian |
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Height:
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5 11" (180 cm)
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Body Type:
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Slender |
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Eye Color:
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Black |
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Hair Color:
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Grey |
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Hair Length:
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Very Short |
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Lifestyle
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I live with:
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Live alone |
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Have kids:
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Yes, living away from me |
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Want (more) children:
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No |
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Willing To Relocate:
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Maybe
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Diet:
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Vegetarian, Health Food Nut, A Little of Everything |
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Smoking:
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No |
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Drinking:
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Social Drinker |
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Exercise:
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exercise regularly |
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How I spend my free time:
- enjoyable and meaningful conversations and readings, volunteering, moderate level of travel, personal financial investments, Hollywood and Bollywood Classic movies, western and eastern classical music, songs, NPR and more, singing romantic and philosophical songs and poems, translate some of the songs and poems in meaningful English expressing the lyrical beauty and preserving emotions and love in the originals, coloring mandala artwork drawings, playing board games with friends and family, relaxing nature walks, yoga classes, home-based exercises, insight and contemplative meditation in home or nature, caring for my garden - full of roses, azaleas, lilies, and magnolia and bay trees.
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| Personality
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My Personality:
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Intelligent, Caring, Playful
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When out with friends, I'm usually:
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The quiet one
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What makes me laugh hardest:
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Old TV shows: Seinfeld, Three's Company, Family Ties, many funny Hollywood and Bollywood movies
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I'm happiest when:
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I feel joy and aliveness in other persons.
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The things that annoy me are:
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With my meditation practice, I turn my annoyance into amusement :-). However, I observe during my nature walks when by-passers talk loudly on their cell phones, some by-passers bury their face into cell phone not paying attention while walking or walking their dogs :-).
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The best day of my life was when:
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granddaughter's laughter watching Laurel and Hardy movies and Disney's hilarious cartoons series, her joyful screaming during Manta Ray snorkeling, and her giggling while reading Garfield comics.
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If I could have dinner with any three people, they would be:
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1. Siddhartha Gautama - called The Buddha for being awaken and having reached to enlightenment. He showed the path during times of inner and outer turmoil, advocating peace, non-violence, and compassion.
2. Mahatma M. K. Gandhi who brought independence to India on 15th August 1947; showing the World that freedom from foreign rulers was achieved without violence and with peaceful protest.
3. J. Krishnamurti (1895-1986), "One of the Greatest Thinkers of the Age" as described by Dalai Lama. His many talks were centered around Sanskrit word “Advaita” – meaning “not-two” or “one without a second”, and in Pali Buddhist term “Advaya” means “not two”. The word “Nondualism” was created later in 1997. “Observer and the Observed as One.” I think that J. Krishnamurti is an iconoclast - an original thinker. I can talk later about my experiences on Oneness when I visited Redwood National Parks, and while watching Milky Way - galaxy from top of the mountain on Big Island, Hawaii. There are talks and videos about J. Krishnamurti's teachings by Eckhart Tolle and A. H. Almaas on YouTube.
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Interests
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My interests, hobbies, and pastimes include...
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Board Games, Computers, Eating Out, Gardening, History, Movies, Museums, Music (listening), Music (performing), Painting & Drawing, Reading, Science, Theater, Travel, Volunteering
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The physical activities I'm interested in are:
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Aerobics, Biking, Billiards/Pool, Bowling, Dancing, Gym/Weightlifting, Hiking/Backpacking, Tennis, Walking, Yoga (hatha)
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For fun I like to...
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Watching all major sports when they reach in the finals, Enjoying cultural festivals with live music and dances, Playing board games with friends, Singing with or without karaoke with a group of friends and sometimes for myself, Traveling, meeting friends and family, and more.
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My favorite movies:
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Many Hollywood Movies, to name a few: Sound of Music, My Fair Lady, Lilies of the Field, Out of Africa, Amadeus, Dances with Wolves, Evita, Gandhi, As Good As It Gets, Titanic, A Few Good Men, The Departed, Big Fish, Collateral, Million Dollar Baby, The Shawshank Redemption, Cinderella Man, Aviator, The Godfather I,II&III, Forrest Gump, Rain Man....
Many Bollywood Movies, to name a few: Jagte Raho, Teesri Kasam, Mera Naam Joker, Aavishkar, Mr. & Mrs. Iyer, The Namesake, Maachis, Earth, Fire, Water....
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My favorite music:
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Western Classical: 100 Piano Masterpieces, Beethoven Piano Concertos and Sonatas, Romantic Classics for Unforgettable Moments and many more
Easy listening, Light Rock (many singers), World Music, Orchestral, Chamber, Musicals....
Eastern Classical Instrumental: Call Of The Valley, Farewell, My Friend by Sitarist Pandit Ravi Shankar, Zakir Hussain, Vilayat Khan and many more
Eastern Classical Vocals, Melodious songs by Mohammed Rafi, Talat Mahmood, Mukesh, Manna Dey, Jagmohan, Lata Mangeshkar, Asha Bhosle, Geeta Dutt and many more
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My favorite books:
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The Book of Life, J. Krishnamurti
Code Name God: The Spiritual Odyssey of a Man of Science, by a physicist M. Bhaumik, PhD
Chicken Soup for the Couple's Soul, multiple authors
Healing A Spouse's Grieving Heart, Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D.
Being Mortal, Atul Gawande, M.D.
The Body Keeps The Score, Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D.
How to Love, Thich Nhat Hanh - Vietnamese Buddhist Monk & Peace Activist
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Values
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The virtues I consider most important are...
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Compassion, Honesty, Perseverence
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The things I'm most grateful for in life are...
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1. 41+ years of a single marriage with my late wife.
2. my hard-earned education.
3. my teachers, mentors, and older siblings for their encouragement in my learnings.
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My goals, and what I want out of life...
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Be in a warm & loving relationship because life is too short.
"O my friend, in every wound, love hides a cure.
Life, by itself, holds little allure - the thrill, the meaning, lies in love.
There is no real joy in mere living - the joy lies in love.
A single moment is all you're given to live.
And that same moment - is what you're given to drink the poison, too.
So steal a little peace from this fleeting time."
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My greatest accomplishments in life have been...
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1. Receiving highest academic education
2. Receiving multiple NIH research grants to decipher human genome
3. Guiding research physicians for grantsmanship for medical issues in cancer patients and survivors
4. Devoting half of married life in providing loving-care to my late wife
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Five or ten years from now, I see myself...
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1. Should have cataract removed from eyes, if necessary. :-)
2. Be in a warm, stable, lasting and loving relationship until I merged back into the Universe.
3. What more can I say - keeping Dharma in focus, and thinking about transient Nature and impermanence of life?
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My political inclination can be described as...
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Liberal
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Spirituality
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Buddhist, Hindu, Jain, Spiritual, not religious
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I consider my spirituality...
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Very important to me
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What brought me to my spiritual path and motivated my interest...
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Death of Beloved One.
Buddha's original ancient message for Way of Life - The Middle Way.
J. Krishnamurti's Philosophy and Spirituality of Life.
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I consider the purpose of my spirituality to be...
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Finding happiness and peace within, Belonging to a like-minded community, Helping me grow as a person
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After the body dies...
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The soul persists in a spiritual realm
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I would define a spiritual experience as...
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No words can "define" a spiritual experience. It is self-awareness, self-realization, self-awakening, selflessness, experience peace and love in a being, - indescribable, immeasurable.
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A spiritual experience I would like to share...
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In reference to the previous statements, yes - there were/are moments - deep, mystic and meaningful connection with consciousness that can be shared with a special person.
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The spiritual books and authors that have had the greatest impact on me...
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1. Book of Life, J. Krishnamurti - "One of the Greatest Thinkers of the Age" - Dalai Lama
2. How to Love, Thich Nhat Hanh - Vietnamese Buddhist Monk & Peace Activist
3. Practicing Wisdom - The Perfection of Shantideva's Bodhisattva Way, The Dalai Lama - Translated by Geshe Thupten Jinpa
4. Comfortable with Uncertainty, Pema Chodron
5. Walking Each Other Home, Ram Dass and Mirabai Bush
6. The Book of Joy, Dalai Lama & Desmond Tutu, with Douglas Abrams
7. Krishnamurti to Himself (His Last Journal), J. Krishnamurti
8. Code Name God: The Spiritual Odyssey of a Man of Science, physicist Dr. Mani Bhaumik
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Who I'm Looking For
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I'm seeking a:
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Woman (65 to 72)
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Ethnicity:
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Asian, Caucasian, South Asian
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Height:
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5' 2" to 5' 8" (157cm to 173cm)
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Body Type:
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Slender, Athletic, Average, A few extra pounds, Curvy
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Hair Color:
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Black, Blonde, Dark Blonde, Light Brown, Dark Brown, Auburn/Red, Grey
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She should speak:
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English
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Education:
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Bachelors Degree, Graduate Degree, PhD/Post Doctoral
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Annual Income:
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$50,001 to $75,000, $75,001 to $100,000, $100,001 to $150,000
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Smoking:
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No
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Drinking:
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Social Drinker
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Vegetarian:
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Doesn't Matter
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Has children:
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Yes (living away from her)
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Wants children:
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No
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Personality:
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Caring, Intelligent, Playful
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When out with friends, she would be...
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The talkative one, The quiet one, Trying to be a good listener
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Buddhist, Christian, Hindu, Humanist, Jain, Jewish, Shinto, Taoist, Unitarian, Spiritual, not religious
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She would consider her faith or spirituality...
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Pretty important
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