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Member Profile: purplishgum
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"Looking for someone to share honesty, humor, and this strange life with"
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I am a:
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29-year-old Man (Single)
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Located in:
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Chicago, IL (USA) |
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Seeking a:
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Man or Woman (25 to 40) |
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For:
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Friendship, Dating, Serious Relationship, Marriage |
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Spirituality:
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Spiritual, not religious, Other |
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| About Me
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I’ve spent a lot of my life on my own, so I can be quiet, a little awkward, and difficult to read at first. I tend to open up more once I feel comfortable.
Nonduality is central to how I understand life, although I’m not looking for someone who agrees with me about everything. I value honesty, depth, humor, and conversations where neither person has to perform. I’m hoping to meet someone patient and curious who is interested in building a genuine connection. |
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Basics
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My Sign:
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Aries |
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I speak:
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English |
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Annual Income:
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$35,001 to $50,000 |
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Ethnicity:
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Hispanic/Latino |
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Height:
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6 0" (183 cm)
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Body Type:
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Athletic |
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Eye Color:
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Brown |
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Hair Color:
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Dark Brown |
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Hair Length:
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Short |
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Lifestyle
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I live with:
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Live alone |
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Have kids:
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No |
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Want (more) children:
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I'm not sure |
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Willing To Relocate:
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Maybe
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Diet:
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Meat & Potatoes, Junk Food Addict, Health Food Nut, A Little of Everything |
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Smoking:
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Trying to quit |
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Drinking:
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Social Drinker |
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Exercise:
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exercise regularly |
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Pets:
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Cat |
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| Personality
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My Personality:
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Caring, Funny, Intelligent
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When out with friends, I'm usually:
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The talkative one
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What makes me laugh hardest:
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Louis CK
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I'm happiest when:
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I’m having an honest conversation with someone I feel comfortable around
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The things that annoy me are:
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Disrespect, one-sided conversations, performative friendliness, and people who expect honesty from others but avoid it themselves.
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The best day of my life was when:
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I can’t name one single best day, but starting my current job gave me several. It felt good to discover that I could show up, work hard, earn respect, and become part of something.
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If I could have dinner with any three people, they would be:
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I honestly don’t have three famous people in mind. I’d rather have dinner with three people who are unusually honest about how they experience life.
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Interests
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My interests, hobbies, and pastimes include...
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Board Games, Cooking, Movies, Museums, Music (listening), Music (performing), Science, Television, Video Games, Volunteering
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The physical activities I'm interested in are:
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Camping, Dancing, Gym/Weightlifting, Walking
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For fun I like to...
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Lately I’ve been using AI to turn things happening in my life into semi-fictional stories. I also enjoy cooking, horror movies, video games, and conversations where I get to understand how people think.
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My favorite movies:
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I love horror, especially surreal or unsettling stories like The Backrooms. “I am a fucking architect!” still makes me laugh.
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My favorite music:
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My taste changes with my mood. Lately I’ve been listening to hip-hop and Brazilian funk when I want something energetic, and more emotional music when I want something that connects with what I’m feeling. I’m especially drawn to songs about love and longing, not only romantic love.
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My favorite books:
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I’m not much of a recreational reader right now, but I’d like my next serious book to be something practical—probably engineering or another subject that could help me build a better future.
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Values
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The virtues I consider most important are...
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Compassion, Honesty, Kindness
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The things I'm most grateful for in life are...
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My current job, which has genuinely been a turning point in my life. I’m also grateful for my mother and the sacrifices she has made for our family, even though I don’t always express it well.
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My goals, and what I want out of life...
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To build a life with genuine connection, better mental and physical health, greater social confidence, and enough financial stability to have real freedom.
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My greatest accomplishments in life have been...
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Caring for stray animals, showing up for people when it mattered, and becoming someone who tries to treat others with humanity even when situations are difficult.
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Five or ten years from now, I see myself...
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More financially independent, surrounded by a few people I genuinely care about, and living a life that has meaning and connection outside of work.
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My political inclination can be described as...
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Politics? What's politics?
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Spirituality
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Spiritual, not religious, Other
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I consider my spirituality...
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Pretty important to me
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What brought me to my spiritual path and motivated my interest...
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I came to nonduality while dealing with something that conventional, dualistic psychology never seemed able to reach. At first I was mainly looking for relief—honestly, I wanted to discover how to be happy all the time. Over time, it became a serious way of understanding my experience and the sense of being a separate self.
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I consider the purpose of my spirituality to be...
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Finding happiness and peace within, Helping me cope with the struggles of life
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After the body dies...
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Other
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I would define a spiritual experience as...
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A moment in which self-inquiry briefly dissolves the usual sense of being a separate self.
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The spiritual books and authors that have had the greatest impact on me...
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Rupert Spira, Francis Lucille, GP Walsh
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Who I'm Looking For
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I'm seeking a:
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Man or Woman (25 to 40)
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Ethnicity:
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Any
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Height:
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4' 6" to 6' 6" (137cm to 198cm)
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Body Type:
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Slender, Athletic, Average, A few extra pounds, Curvy
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Hair Color:
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Any
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He/She should speak:
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English
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Education:
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Doesn't Matter
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Annual Income:
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Doesn't Matter
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Smoking:
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Doesn't Matter
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Drinking:
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Doesn't Matter
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Vegetarian:
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Doesn't Matter
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Has children:
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No
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Wants children:
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Not sure
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Personality:
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Intelligent, Caring, Funny
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When out with friends, he/she would be...
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Doesn't Matter
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Spiritual, not religious, Other
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He/She would consider his/her faith or spirituality...
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Doesn't Matter
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