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Member Profile: healypass
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"New Possibilities"
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I am a:
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73-year-old Man (Divorced)
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Located in:
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portland, OR (USA) |
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Seeking a:
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Woman (60 to 74) |
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For:
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Friendship, Dating, Serious Relationship |
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Spirituality:
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Buddhist, Spiritual, not religious |
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| About Me
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Though I am based in Portland OR now, I spent 15 years traveling to many parts of the world as part of my job --India, Japan, China, Turkey, Israel, Costa Rica, Nepal, and Thailand, among many others. The travel opened me up to new ways of looking at things and new possibilities in life -- that life can always become larger, more vibrant, and even more interesting than it already is right now. I am looking for someone who feels this same way about relationships -- that they have the possibility of opening us up even more to deeper parts of ourselves, to each other, and to all the joy that life has to offer.
I have worked with Zen Buddhism for a long time, both teaching in the college classroom (among other topics) and trying to practice it in one form or another myself. But after a few decades, I now connect my practice less with formal meditation and more with attempts at a richer and more poetic engagement of life in the world. [Note: As of January 2024, I am no longer a paid member on this site and cannot initiate conversations, only respond to them.].
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Basics
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My Sign:
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Aries |
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I speak:
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English |
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Occupation:
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Writer/Retired College Professor |
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Education:
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PhD/Post Doctoral |
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Annual Income:
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$75,001 to $100,000 |
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Ethnicity:
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Caucasian |
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Height:
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6 3" (191 cm)
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Body Type:
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Average |
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Eye Color:
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Brown |
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Hair Color:
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Light Brown |
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Hair Length:
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Short |
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Lifestyle
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I live with:
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Live alone |
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Have kids:
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No |
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Want (more) children:
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Probably not |
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Willing To Relocate:
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Maybe
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Diet:
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Vegetarian, A Little of Everything |
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Smoking:
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No |
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Drinking:
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Social Drinker |
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Exercise:
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exercise regularly |
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Pets:
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Other |
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How I spend my free time:
- Reading, listening to music, going to movies or the theatre; walking through art museums or different neighborhoods of the city. I especially enjoy the trees, people, dogs, grass, water, kites and games of a nearby park. I never tire of visits or holidays overseas, more South or Southeast Asia than Europe. I love time hiking in the mountains, or at the beach with the sound/feel of the waves.
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| Personality
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My Personality:
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Intuitive, Funny, Intelligent
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When out with friends, I'm usually:
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Trying to be a good listener
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What makes me laugh hardest:
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My own mistakes during the day --
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I'm happiest when:
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A surprising moment or opening in art, nature, weather or relationship; a long walk with a close friend or family member; the first greens in the spring or the brilliant colors of the fall; the moment in the afternoon when the sun comes through the skylight in my kitchen; hiking in the Rocky Mountains near Banff ; times near a mountain lake or the ocean; unexpected moments of connection with people I meet for the first time while travelling . The water has been a second home to me since I was two years old -- I am always happy there.
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The things that annoy me are:
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Intolerance, unkiind actions, gossip, negativity. What's the point?
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If I could have dinner with any three people, they would be:
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My grandfather, as he worked very successfully internationally for most of his life; the Dalai Lama for all that he is, does, and has accomplished; David Whyte, the poet, to discuss with him his view on the poetic engagement of daily life.
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Interests
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My interests, hobbies, and pastimes include...
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Eating Out, Movies, Museums, Music (listening), Reading, Theater, Travel
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The physical activities I'm interested in are:
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Aerobics, Biking, Camping, Gym/Weightlifting, Hiking/Backpacking, Running, Swimming, Walking, Yoga (hatha)
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For fun I like to...
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Walks in the parks or through the city; brunch -- I like the slowness of it; gym, movies, theatre, music, books, reading; good coffee; almost all art galleries and museums here and especially abroad; walking along the beach next to the waves;
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My favorite music:
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Loving the variety and mix of Pandora now. I listen to a lot of World Music from many different countries and try to bring some home with me when I travel; I enjoy some classical music, as well as oldies such as Joni Mitchell, Neil Young, Bob Dylan. I do not require my friends to have similar taste in music, books or movies!
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Values
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The virtues I consider most important are...
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Compassion, Empathy, Loyalty
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The things I'm most grateful for in life are...
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My family, my closest friends, those moments of connection, my different Buddhist teachers, my students, the chance I have had to travel so widely, to be in so many astonishing and wonder-filled places and to meet so many different people all over the world.
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Five or ten years from now, I see myself...
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One year at a time!
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My political inclination can be described as...
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Liberal
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Spirituality
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Buddhist, Spiritual, not religious
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I consider my spirituality...
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Very important to me
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What brought me to my spiritual path and motivated my interest...
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In my late twenties, involvement with Gestalt dreamwork, yoga, bodywork, and depth psychology led to exposure to different kinds of meditation and a weekend retreat at a Zen Buddhist monastery. I returned later for a few 3-month terms and then a seven-year stretch as a full-time resident Now I seem to have come full circle, returning again to work with the body and emotions to better integrate meditation into relationships in daily life.
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I consider the purpose of my spirituality to be...
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Connecting to something greater than myself, Finding happiness and peace within, Helping me cope with the struggles of life, Belonging to a like-minded community, Helping me grow as a person
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A spiritual experience I would like to share...
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Retreats at Buddhist monasteries in California, India, Japan and Thailand; breakfast on a hotel roof in Dharmsala; a sunrise boat ride down the Ganges river in Varanasi; the blooming of the cherry blossoms in Kyoto; watching Sufi dancing in Istanbul; or just seeing a little girl skipping in the sun through fall leaves in a local park. /// Yet also seeing the connection between tension and intimacy in a relationship, that these two hold the possibility of being the inside-out of one another; that a difficulty or conflict in a relationship can be held in spaciousness and trust until an opening occurs -- and when that opening occurs, two people can choose to walk through it into both healing and greater intimacy.
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The spiritual books and authors that have had the greatest impact on me...
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Shunryu Suzuki, Pema Chodron, the Dalai Lama; Mantak Chia's work on the Taoist Circulation of Male and Female Energy; Margot Anand; some poems of Rumi, Antonio Machado, David Whyte, Mary Oliver.
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Who I'm Looking For
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I'm seeking a:
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Woman (60 to 74)
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Ethnicity:
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Any
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Height:
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5' 5" to 6' 6" (165cm to 198cm)
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Body Type:
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Any
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Hair Color:
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Any
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She should speak:
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English
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Education:
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Graduate Degree, PhD/Post Doctoral
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Annual Income:
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Doesn't Matter
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Smoking:
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No
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Drinking:
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Doesn't Matter
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Vegetarian:
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Doesn't Matter
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Has children:
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Doesn't Matter
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Wants children:
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Doesn't Matter
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Personality:
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Caring, Funny, Intelligent
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When out with friends, she would be...
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The talkative one, The quiet one, Trying to be a good listener
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Buddhist, Hindu, Shinto, Taoist, Unitarian, Yoga, Spiritual, not religious
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She would consider her faith or spirituality...
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The central focus of her life, Very important
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