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Member Profile: joejoejoe
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"joejoejoe"
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I am a:
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73-year-old Man (Single)
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Located in:
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San Joaquin County, CA (USA) |
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Seeking a:
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Woman (55 to 65) |
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Friendship, Dating, Serious Relationship |
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Spirituality:
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Buddhist, Sufism, Other |
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| About Me
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My self-summary
I ended an eleven-year long relationship in the year 2000 in Detroit. I have pretty much been alone since. There were things that I needed to sort out.
For thirteen years, I work in the Design Studios for one of the big three. Two years ago, they decided to cut corners and I was one of the corners that they cut. What redemption. I did not feel that way at the time. I stayed in Detroit and worked on my sculpture. I decided to move back to my old studio in California and start life again. I did not realize that elements of nature had started to reclaim my building as their own. Skunks stood guard at the entrance; tree squirrels riddled the rafters, woodpeckers descended like Nazi Stukas dropping rats armed with chain saws. It was a Disneyland of vermin but not as cute.
I should also tell you I have a meditation practice. This is important to me. I am not weird about it. I do not om at dinner, interrupt conversations to talk to spirits, or pretended to know things that I haven�t a clue about. It is simple really. I just go and lay down quietly. That is it. It could be worse; I could smoke cigars.
What I�m doing with my life
I am repairing an abandoned building, which once was my studio. I am over whelmed by the repair work that I have yet to complete, but I have had three good spells of drawing and the forms I have discovered feel so right to me. I can almost taste the sweetness of steel and cement. I can�t wait for this building to be done. I have the scent.
I�m really good at
How do I really write something that is true, not a sentiment, not a bit of flippancy? I guess this is a good way to get people to talk about themselves. What am I good at? Christ, what could that be? Being, I am good at being. No matter how badly I screw things up, I am still here. Well, that is a delightful bit of news.
In an obscure way, this reminds me of a tale of Rabbi Zuysa. One night he stayed at his friend�s house. His friend heard him praying, �Lord how may I serve you�, repeatedly. Finally, there was a silence and he heard Zuysa say, as if Zuysa had just heard someone speak to him, �Whistle, why yes I know how to whistle�. You don�t need to part the Red Sea. This question really begs for a response from the ego.
When I lived in Detroit, I would always go to the Jazz Festival. Love Latin Jazz. There was a woman that always danced by the stage. She was not Tina Turner. She wore outlandish clothes that bordered on the bizarre. The comments that I would occasionally hear about her seemed to indicate that she did not dance well. She was not good at it. Yet there was something about her that I really admired. She seemed to be unencumbered by any notion of self-consciousness. She did not seem to be aware of herself as an object of observation by others or by herself. Something just moved through her like a wind blowing through trees. Of course, I am projecting all this, I did not know her mind, but for me she conjured up the image of liberation. This is what I would like my sculpture to be. A little dance of liberation. That was a fun little question after all. OK, what else you got?
The first things people usually notice about me
Some women have told me that I was sexy. Some have also told me that I was an idiot, so I must be some where in between or I am a sexy idiot. You never know what people are thinking, but then at times I have felt sexy and I also have felt like an idiot. OK, there is no hope here; I must get off this train.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books.
Machado, �it is good to know that a glass is for drinking, what is bad is not to know what thirst is for�. Vallejo, �god was sick the day I was born�. Wallace Stevens, �I do not know which to prefer, the beauty of inflections or the beauty of innuendoes, the blackbird whistling or just after. Pound, sometimes. Lorca, �her thighs moved like flashing fish. Jimenez, �the world recreated and recreated through grace and never through force�. Dylan Thomas, I can�t remember any of his lines, I used to try to remember a poem every time I drove tractor, a boring job. One year the weeds were so high and I had to drive the tractor so slow that I read all of The Plague by Camus the only nice existentialist. Ionesco, Rhinoceros. Marquez, I thought that One Hundred Years of Solitude read like a humours Dostoyevsky. Dostoyevsky, I think that I read all of his work in high school. I wanted to be a Russian. I read the Anti-Christ by Nietzsche when I was in the eighth grade. I do not really know what I understood of it. I latter told my father at the dinner table that I did not believe in god anymore; after he slammed his hand on the table I made the sign of the cross, began humming the Ave Maria, and ate my dinner. Hafiz. Rumi. I went to his 800 or something birthday party in Ann Abhor with my 84-year-old friend three or four years ago. She drove. She likes to drive. I hate to drive. Neither one of us had a sense of direction. We circled Ann Abhor on the freeway for an hour before we recognize that the freeway circumambulated the town. We got off the freeway and my friend spotted a woman walking on the other side of the street, she flagged her down, told her she had lovely hair and a beautiful smile and asked her where Bly and Barks were reading, all the while cars are piling up behind us honking their horns and flashing their headlights. I love this woman dearly and send her two dozen roses every year for mother�s day and her birthday but I would never want to drive behind her. Anna Akmatova, I love saying her name. Charles Simic. Radmila Lazic. I read her work in a bilingual edition straining my memory, when I came across the word �pupac�. I recognized the word from my youth but I couldn�t think of what it was, then I glanced over at the translation and found that the word meant belly button. I don�t know why this was so funny to me, it was like finding a childhood toy that I had forgotten. I think this is how I am relating to sculpture. Ono no Komachi, I like saying her name too, feels good in the mouth. Jane Hirsfield. Rexroth. Rilke. Leonard Cohen. Yeats, Crazy Mary meets the bishop. Milorad Pavic. Ghalib. I started reading Castaneda again; do not know why. Power of Silence. Bukowski. Marion Woodmen. Marie-Louise von Franz. Faulkner. Lenny Bruce. Clarissa Pinkola Estes. Adyashanti. Nisargadatta. Ouspensky. Pema Chodran. Byron Katie. Allen Watts. Gangagi. Jed McKenna. Joan Tolifson. Tolle. Huston Smith. Joseph Campbell. I don�t like Ken Wilbur. What does anyone have to be arrogant about? I haven�t read many novels in the last eleven years. For the most part, I have been reading books on personal development. I still read poetry. The poetry never stopped. I read science fiction when I have the flu. Don�t have to think about it. Bubblegum for the mind.
Artist.
I loved Michelangelo as a child. I have invoked the image of the Pieta when I do tonglen, so I guess I still love his work. Giacometti. I first saw his work when I was in the sixth grade and I am still under his spell. Van Gogh. Paul Klee. I love the two books The Thinking eye and Nature on Nature. I think that I purchased The Thinking Eye from the SFMA when I was in high school. Rauschenberg. Rothko. I was strangle fascinated by Salvador Dali when I was a child. That has passed. The LAMA years ago had an exhibit of the Russian Constructivist that was lovely. Lissitzky. Malevich, but he seems to clever. The LAMA had an exhibit on the Spiritual in Abstract Painting in the eighties. I did not see the show but I bought the catalogue of the exhibition. Chagall. Eva Hesse, Jackie Winsor. I don�t like any of the members of the Hairy Who. Brancusi. Kandinsky. Calder. David Smith. Anthony Caro. Richard Serra. Manuel Neri. Diebenkorn. Joan Brown. Outsider Art. Noguchi. Morandi. Alice Neel. Diego Rivera. How can one live in Detroit and not love Rivera. I lived next to the DIA when I was in Detroit. Frida Kahlo. I am getting tired of this. I think that the list of writers burnt me out. de Kooning.
Films.
I like science fiction and fantasy. I did like the King�s Speech and it didn�t fall under the two genres that I mentioned. I like action movies that are cartoony. If it is to real, I don�t like it. It is the graphics that I enjoy, the special effects.
Food.
I passed kidney stones two years ago. I was in the hospital for a day moaning and groaning. I recalled the advice of Steven Levine when he suggested the next time you were sick, imagine that you were dying. I really thought I was dying and the odd thing is that I felt comforted by that thought. So now, my diet is rather bland and boring unless I sin. And when I sin I love Mexican food. I am pretty health. Good peasant stock.
The six things I could never do without
Breath, but that might not be true. Never held my breath long enough to test it, but I have heard rumors.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I try not to spend a lot of time thinking. This gets me in trouble. My thoughts come at me like a terror in the night. What I did do, what I didn�t do, what they did, what they didn�t do. I try to spend my time listening and move from there.
On a typical Friday night I am
Here on a typical Friday night I am working on this building. In Detroit I would go to Bert�s at the Eastern Market and listen to Jazz. Or I would be reading or watching a movie.
The most private thing I�m willing to admit
I am shy. Painfully shy at times. I fear that I will forget English and brake into Croatian gibberish. Sometimes I am not.
I�m looking for
� Girls who like guys
� Ages 55�65
� Located anywhere
� Who are single
� For new friends, long-term dating
I�m looking for
Someone to help me improve my Spanish or Croatian.
Someone to learn from. This is important.
Someone that would respect my time alone and I do seem to need a lot of it.
Someone that would respect my practice. It would be nice to be with someone that had a practice. It would be nice to be able to talk about that. I think that I would really like that but who knows. I know of couples where the wife is a democrat, the husband is a republican, and they have a wonderful life together, or so it seems. I am not political at all by the way. I want wars to end, and people in need to receive helped. I shake my head at the right and nod to the left but I really don�t feel compelled to do anything about it.
I would also like to have new friends. I seem to have more women friends than males. I don�t like to compete. I don�t like to play board games. I don�t like sports. I can�t dance. I move from left to right like an animated tree trunk when I listen to music. I like to watch people dance. I love to watch people. I have a telephoto lens but I don�t shot through windows. A friend of mine led a design studio in China but he missed Detroit. I walked around Detroit telling people of my friend�s plight. I asked them if I could take a photo of them waving hello to assuage my friend�s homesickness for Detroit. It was fun.
You should message me if
Message me if something I said or the photos intrigue you. I do not know how else this could work. There must be something intuitive in the selection process. Isn�t it a crap shot either way?
I am not sure why I am doing all of this. It is like sending a message in a bottle to an unknown beloved on a distant shore. What are the odds, but I like being in love. I would like to see a face in a crowd that fills me with awe and wonder.
OK, so here it goes. I am in the game.
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Basics
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My Sign:
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Gemini |
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I speak:
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English, Spanish, Croatian |
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Occupation:
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occupied |
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Education:
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Some College |
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Ethnicity:
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Caucasian |
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Height:
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6 2" (188 cm)
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Body Type:
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Average |
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Eye Color:
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Brown |
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Hair Color:
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Light Brown |
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Hair Length:
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Short |
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Lifestyle
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I live with:
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Live alone |
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Have kids:
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No |
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Want (more) children:
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No |
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Willing To Relocate:
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No
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Smoking:
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No |
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Drinking:
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Social Drinker |
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Pets:
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Other |
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| Personality
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Interests
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My interests, hobbies, and pastimes include...
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Computers, Movies, Museums, Painting & Drawing, Photography, Reading, Writing
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The physical activities I'm interested in are:
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Walking
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Values
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The virtues I consider most important are...
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Compassion, Patience, Humility
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My political inclination can be described as...
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Politics? What's politics?
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Spirituality
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Buddhist, Sufism, Other
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I consider my spirituality...
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Very important to me
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I consider the purpose of my spirituality to be...
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Other
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Who I'm Looking For
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I'm seeking a:
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Woman (55 to 65)
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Ethnicity:
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Any
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Height:
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4' 6" to 6' 0" (137cm to 183cm)
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Body Type:
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Slender
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Hair Color:
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Any
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She should speak:
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English, Croatian, Croatian
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Education:
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Doesn't Matter
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Annual Income:
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Doesn't Matter
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Smoking:
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No, Occasionally, Trying to quit
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Drinking:
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Doesn't Matter
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Vegetarian:
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Doesn't Matter
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Has children:
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Doesn't Matter
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Wants children:
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Probably not
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Personality:
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Doesn't Matter
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When out with friends, she would be...
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Doesn't Matter
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Any
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She would consider her faith or spirituality...
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Very important
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