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Member Profile: stray_cat
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"We're stuck in a genaration where..."
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I am a:
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46-year-old Man (Single)
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Located in:
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Stockholm, Sweden |
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Seeking a:
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Woman (26 to 39) |
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Serious Relationship |
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Spirituality:
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Buddhist, Christian, Humanist, Taoist |
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| About Me
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Welcome fellow wanderer, come and sit by the fire and rest your weary feet with me, and let me offer you a re-freshing cup of herbal tea ;) Alright, here goes, hold on to your hat: "Whoever wants music instead of noice, joy instead of pleasure, soul instead of gold, creative work instead of business, passion instead of foolery, finds no home in this trivial world of ours". Yeah, I know, pretty mind-blowing! It's a quote by Hermann Hesse, my favourite writer. But he's not exactly alone feeling that way in this upside down world. And even the great Hermes Trismegitus cried out: "O son, how many bodies have we to pass through, how many bands of demons, through how many series of repetitions and cycles of the stars, before we hasten to the One alone?"
Mainly interested in Truth and Love. Also Gnosticism/Western esotericism, Romantic idealism, Buddhist meditation, Taoist inner alchemy, non-conventional psychology (Jungian depth, existential-humanistic, critical, somatic), anti-capitalist/-imperialist/socialist politics etc. (can't stand sanctimonious and politically correct people though!). Trained physiotherapist, specialized in body psychotherapy and holistic therapies (especially TCM). Also studied philosophy and psychology for a couple of years. But I don't consider the university to be the bastion of knowledge, and I'm mostly self-taught when it comes to the really useful stuff. I believe all the answers will come - by God's grace - to those in need of them. Right now I'm writing on a book. Love literature, film, music and art in general. Enjoy being creative, exploring the world, being in nature, cooking tasty food (mostly vegetarian), kung fu fighting and doing absolutely nothing.
Sensitive, introverted and reasonably well-grounded dreamer with a big heart and a strong character. INFJ-T, triple Scorpio, with a touch of the good old Viking explorer mentality - but with a lot of love to give to the right person. Looking for someone sensitive, caring and romantic as well, who longs for deep connection and having her soul touched. Yes, it's that shining needle I'm looking for, since the haystack mostly consists of normopathic brain-eating zombies and narcissistic blood-sucking vampires. And please don't waste your time writing to me if you think you're enlightened and whole, prioritize social acceptance and material security over spiritual well-being, and see vulnerability in others as a weakness and an opportunity to get the upper hand. People like that are either lacking classical education, are outright delusional or doesn't have a moral fiber in their body. Only write to me if you're a spiritually mature person who sees vulnerability in others as an opportunity to be vulnerable yourself, and an opportunity to build something healing, beautiful and lasting. Don't just talk about doing shadow work to sell yourself - because the law of attraction bullshit/toxic positivity isn't trendy anymore - but show me you're actually doing it! And make sure to have more than a blurry headshot in your photo gallery as well. If all this was the bleeding obvious I wouldn't have to spell it out.
Well aware of my strengths, as well as my weaknesses and limitations. I'm just another human being, far from being perfect. A typical "twice-born" person (in Jamesian terminology) - with a difficult fate - who's had to struggle fiercely with the "Weltschmerz" on my soul's journey. And - if I have to say it - is now blooming out pretty beautifully. Try my best to accept and love myself fully and to heal old wounds. We are all traumatized, but unfortunately in this day and age many people are either not aware of it, too proud to admit it, or out of fear just pretending to be normal to fit in. And instead project their bypassed and unowned shit on others, and in their madness and anger set the world on fire. Or as Jung more eloquently put it after his intense mid-life crisis and Hell journey: "Show me a sane man and I'll cure you him for you". Or Tolstoy, after his spiritual/moral crisis and severe depression in his fifties: "Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself". And, to really prove I know what I'm talking about, why not throw in a third quote here - from the man himself - Jesus of Palestine: "The last shall be first, and the first last: for many be called, but few chosen".
Yes, ehrm, love trumps the ego! From the perspective of the more enlightened minds this mad world is basically in one big mass psychosis. Love people who has courage and wisdom enough to drop their masks. And who dares to think for themselves and to go to the bottom with things - to analyse and criticize what they see as wrong or false. This upsidedown world, where the worst people are in power and the best people struggle, is so fearful and guarded. And the courage to think critically is so important if we want to be truly free. So that we can break free from the herd mentality, the social game and the hamster wheel they've put us in and finally go our own way in life and live fully and passionately. Like the holy fools deep inside of us urges us to do, in their innocence and purity. We should let this be the driving force that moves us away from this madness and suffering, nobly practising discernment, and slowly waking up to an older and much brighter sun - to something true, good and beautiful. And to live by the Socratic golden rule: "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle".
My dream is to settle down somewhere far away from this declining Kali Yuga civilization, with its false prophets and their sleazy fake smiles and cheesy quick-fixes. Somewhere close to nature, and gladly in a warmer climate too. And where life is slower and less complicated. A Shangri-La hidden high up in the mountains or a secluded paradise island perhaps. I don't know exactly where yet, but I hope to find it together with someone special - another dreamer - who dreams the Gnostic dream as well. A beautiful loser who has seen through this evil world and wants out of it more than anything else. Who wants to simplify life, work less and have more time to just be. And let herself - in God's mysterious ways - be disentangled from the web of samsara. When I've built up a good samadhi, and my mind is still and body relaxed, I feel most vibrantly alive and happy - and I don't need much else. I believe that the best things in life are free - or relatively cheap at least - and I just want a quiet, introspective and contemplative life.
Today I feel mostly aligned with early and partly forgotten Christian/Gnostic teachings. Before I considered myself a Buddhist for many years. I'm still practising meditation, in the Theravada tradition, since about twenty years now. And I also practise a variety of Taoist techniques - acupressure, tai chi, qigong, daoyin (similar to yin yoga), and healing love (which is a form of sexual qigong similar to the Indian tantra practice). I've explored many spiritual systems over the years; Protestantism, Taoism, Hinduism, Buddhism, shamanism and Gnosticism/Hermeticism, and I have a quite eclectic and pragmatic attitude to spirituality. I also love listening to Middle Eastern music and would like to study the different Sufi practices more in-depth some day. I think all religions are the same in their mystical core. And I dislike religious fanaticism almost as much as I dislike the New Age sellout.
Many years ago, in my early twenties, I had a life-changing meditation experience; a both blissful and terrifying glimpse of God, that lasted less than a minute - but ever since my focus in life has been to return to that state and to find higher and higher truth, freedom and meaning in life. To cultivate and refine my thoughts and feelings in a dialectical inner dialogue. And simultaneously work from the other direction, in meditation and inquiry of the self, to go beyond the thinking mind. Sometimes I've had a longing to devote myself entirely to the spiritual path, and become a forest-dwelling hermit. But first I want to try to find true love, to find my soulmate - if there really is such a thing? I've had my doubts about that concept sometimes, but I'm still on this quest as whole-heartedly as I can be and I don't feel like giving it up yet. So if there's a kindred soul out there, waiting for me too, then it must be destiny.
Sources of inspiration: C.G. Jung, Hermann Hesse, Erich Fromm, Roberto Assagioli, Viktor Frankl, Rollo May, Wilhelm Reich, Kazimierz Dabrowski, William James, Alan Watts, Aldous Huxley, Kierkegaard, Schopenhauer, Dostoyevsky, Tolstoy, Thoreau, Goethe, Dante, Kafka, Balzac, Romain Rolland, August Strindberg, Viktor Rydberg, W. Somerset Maugham, Edward Bulwer-Lytton, Kerouac, Salinger, Irving Stone, Carlos Castaneda, John Climacus, Saint Augustine, Teresa of Avila, John of the Cross, Thomas Merton, Simone Weil, Fr. Lazarus El-Anthony, Thanissaro Bhikku, Ajahn Sucitto, Terence McKenna, Gabor Maté, Herbert Marcuse, Noam Chomsky, Cornel West, Zygmund Bauman - and last but not least - Slavoj Zizek.
Beauty will save the world. Not the Avengers, or the hypocritical crypto-fascist Jordan Peterson in his fucking lobster tie and pockets full of benzos.
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Basics
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My Sign:
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Scorpio |
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I speak:
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Swedish, English |
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Education:
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Bachelors Degree |
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Ethnicity:
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Caucasian |
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Height:
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5 9" (175 cm)
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Body Type:
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Average |
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Lifestyle
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Have kids:
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No |
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Want (more) children:
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Leave Blank |
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Willing To Relocate:
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Yes
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Diet:
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A Little of Everything |
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Smoking:
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No |
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Drinking:
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Social Drinker |
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| Personality
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Interests
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My interests, hobbies, and pastimes include...
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Cooking, Eating Out, Movies, Museums, Music (listening), Politics, Reading, Travel
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The physical activities I'm interested in are:
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Hiking/Backpacking, Martial Arts, Running, Walking
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Values
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The virtues I consider most important are...
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Kindness, Honesty, Loyalty
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My political inclination can be described as...
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Some other viewpoint
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Spirituality
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Buddhist, Christian, Humanist, Taoist
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I consider my spirituality...
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The central focus of my life
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Who I'm Looking For
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I'm seeking a:
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Woman (26 to 39)
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Ethnicity:
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Any
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Height:
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5' 0" to 6' 0" (152cm to 183cm)
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Body Type:
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Slender, Average
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Hair Color:
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Any
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She should speak:
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English
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Education:
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Doesn't Matter
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Annual Income:
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Doesn't Matter
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Smoking:
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No
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Drinking:
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No, Social Drinker
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Vegetarian:
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Doesn't Matter
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Has children:
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No
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Wants children:
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Someday, Not sure
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Personality:
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Caring, Intelligent, Funny
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When out with friends, she would be...
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Doesn't Matter
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Buddhist, Humanist, Spiritual, not religious
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She would consider her faith or spirituality...
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The central focus of her life, Very important
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