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Member Profile: Barnowl
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"Peaceful heart"
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I am a:
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66-year-old Woman (Widowed)
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Located in:
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Hartford, CT (USA) |
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Seeking a:
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Man (58 to 75) |
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For:
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Friendship, Dating, Serious Relationship, Marriage |
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Spirituality:
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Buddhist, Taoist, Spiritual, not religious |
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| About Me
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I'm a gentle and creative soul, recently settled back in Hartford after a few years away—Mexico then Vermont, with long working trips to Southeast Asia and East Africa.
I love both solitude and long conversations about things that matter. Retired now, I write, volunteer on the spiritual care team of a local hospital, and ask lots of questions. I enjoy walks in the woods, summer lakes, indie movies, Thailand, and poems and songs that open me.
I have an active and curious mind, but I live from my heart. I also have a committed spiritual life and meditation practice and am working with a Zen master who is wise and kind and open to that fact that I’m not entirely a Buddhist.
And you?
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Basics
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My Sign:
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Aquarius |
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I speak:
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English, Spanish |
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Occupation:
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Education Consultant (retired) |
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Education:
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Graduate Degree |
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Ethnicity:
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Caucasian |
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Height:
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5 7" (170 cm)
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Body Type:
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A few extra pounds |
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Eye Color:
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Blue |
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Hair Color:
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Grey |
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Hair Length:
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Short |
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Lifestyle
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I live with:
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Live alone |
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Have kids:
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Yes, living away from me |
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Want (more) children:
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No |
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Willing To Relocate:
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Maybe
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Diet:
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A Little of Everything |
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Smoking:
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No |
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Drinking:
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Social Drinker |
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How I spend my free time:
- Sitting quietly. Writing. Walking in the woods or in the park next door. Swimming. Reading. Watching clouds float by, leaves rustle in the wind. Listening for thunder rumbling.
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| Personality
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My Personality:
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Caring, Intelligent, Creative
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When out with friends, I'm usually:
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Trying to be a good listener
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I'm happiest when:
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I'm deeply connected to the people I'm with.
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The things that annoy me are:
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I tend not to become annoyed very often. When I do, I can usually find and address the cause within myself.
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If I could have dinner with any three people, they would be:
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Philomon, the figure Jung met during the deep dives into his psyche that yielded the Red Book
J Krishnamurti, as he was deciding to reject the role of World Teacher
Richard Feynman. I'm not a scientist, but I am fascinated by his wild but disciplined mind, as well as his sense of humor.
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Interests
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My interests, hobbies, and pastimes include...
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Cooking, Eating Out, Genealogy, History, Movies, Museums, Reading, Theater, Travel, Volunteering, Writing
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The physical activities I'm interested in are:
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Camping, Hiking/Backpacking, Swimming, Walking
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For fun I like to...
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Write, cook ambitious dinners for friends and neighbors, walk in the woods, swim at midnight.
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My favorite movies:
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The Graduate, Desk Set, The Usual Suspects, Youth.
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My favorite music:
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Leonard Cohen, Joni Mitchell, David Lang, early Bruce Springsteen, And now that I have grandchildren, I have a new appreciation for Raffie (when not cursing him for making me sing "Baby Beluga" compulsively).
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My favorite books:
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Graham Greene (a master of the defended human heart), Barbara Kingsolver (for whom I have an even deeper appreciate, after I was attacked by safari ants in Rwanda. Twice.), Annie Dillard. And in poetry, Four Quartets, Walt Whitman, W.S. Merwin, John O'Donohue, Galway Kinnell, Howl, Mary Oliver.
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Values
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The virtues I consider most important are...
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Compassion, Open-Mindedness, Humility
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The things I'm most grateful for in life are...
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The opportunity to build a new life after what once seemed like an impossible loss. Strength, optimism, good friends and neighbors. The opportunity to provide comfort to others during difficult times.
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My greatest accomplishments in life have been...
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I supposed I've accomplished a few things, but I don't really think in terms of accomplishments.
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Five or ten years from now, I see myself...
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I have no idea, and I embrace that lack of knowing.
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My political inclination can be described as...
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Liberal
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Spirituality
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Buddhist, Taoist, Spiritual, not religious
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I consider my spirituality...
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Very important to me
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What brought me to my spiritual path and motivated my interest...
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A path claimed me, after an overwhelming, and definitely unbidden, spiritual awakening. Much has happened since then, and I am deeply grateful for all of it, the challenges as well as the joys.
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I consider the purpose of my spirituality to be...
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Connecting to something greater than myself, Finding happiness and peace within, Helping me grow as a person
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After the body dies...
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I don't know, but I'm not worried about it
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A spiritual experience I would like to share...
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Not here, not now. But I will happily talk about my experiences with a like-minded person who is asking similar questions within their own life.
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The spiritual books and authors that have had the greatest impact on me...
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CS Lewis's A Grief Observed, Adyashanti, Carl Jung, William Blake, Parker Palmer.
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Who I'm Looking For
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I'm seeking a:
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Man (58 to 75)
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Ethnicity:
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Any
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Height:
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5' 3" to 7' 0" (160cm to 213cm)
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Body Type:
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Any
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Hair Color:
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Any
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He should speak:
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English
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Education:
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Bachelors Degree, Graduate Degree, PhD/Post Doctoral
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Annual Income:
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Doesn't Matter
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Smoking:
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No
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Drinking:
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Doesn't Matter
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Vegetarian:
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Doesn't Matter
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Has children:
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Doesn't Matter
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Wants children:
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Probably not, No
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Personality:
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Caring, Intelligent, Funny
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When out with friends, he would be...
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The talkative one, The quiet one, Trying to be a good listener
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Any
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He would consider his faith or spirituality...
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The central focus of his life, Very important, Pretty important
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