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Member Profile: Barnowl
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"Open to what comes next"
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I am a:
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65-year-old Woman (Widowed)
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Located in:
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Hartford, CT (USA) |
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Seeking a:
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Man (58 to 75) |
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For:
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Friendship, Dating, Serious Relationship, Marriage |
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Spirituality:
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Buddhist, Taoist, Spiritual, not religious |
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| About Me
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I'm a gentle and creative soul, newly settled back in Hartford after a few years away—Mexico then Vermont, with long visits in Rwanda, Thailand, and Cambodia.
I'm recently retired after a career in education, the last 20 years as a consultant. I'm ready for what comes next, right now mostly writing and cooking dinners for a local food pantry. Time will tell how the next years few years will unfold.
I'm one who loves both solitude and long conversations about things that matter. I'm both intellectual and intuitive, rational and spiritual, poetic and scientific. I'm happy on my own and also looking for deep connection. I love meditation, learning, pizza, animals, naps, walks in the woods, open questions, summer lakes, indie movies, the kids in a school I support in Thailand, sacred music, Parker Palmer, the Obama presidency, Mary Oliver, poems and songs that open me.
I have an active and curious mind, but I live from my heart. I also have a committed spiritual life and meditation practice and am working with a Zen master who is wise and kind and open to that fact that I’m not entirely a Buddhist.
And you?
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Basics
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My Sign:
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Aquarius |
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I speak:
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English, Spanish |
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Occupation:
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Education Consultant |
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Education:
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Graduate Degree |
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Ethnicity:
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Caucasian |
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Height:
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5 7" (170 cm)
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Body Type:
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A few extra pounds |
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Eye Color:
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Blue |
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Hair Color:
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Grey |
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Hair Length:
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Short |
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Lifestyle
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I live with:
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Live alone |
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Have kids:
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Yes, living away from me |
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Want (more) children:
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No |
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Willing To Relocate:
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Maybe
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Diet:
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A Little of Everything |
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Smoking:
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No |
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Drinking:
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Social Drinker |
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How I spend my free time:
- Sitting quietly. Writing. Walking in the woods or through my wonderful neighborhood. Swimming. Reading. Watching clouds float by, leaves rustle in the wind. Listening for thunder rumbling.
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| Personality
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My Personality:
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Caring, Intelligent, Intuitive
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When out with friends, I'm usually:
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Trying to be a good listener
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I'm happiest when:
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I'm deeply connected to the people I'm with.
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The things that annoy me are:
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I tend not to become annoyed very often. When I do, I can usually find and address the cause within myself.
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If I could have dinner with any three people, they would be:
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Philomon, the figure Jung met during the deep dives into his psyche that yielded the Red Book
J Krishnamurti, as he was deciding to reject the role of World Teacher
Richard Feynman. I'm not a scientist, but I am fascinated by his wild but disciplined mind, as well as his sense of humor.
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Interests
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My interests, hobbies, and pastimes include...
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Cooking, Eating Out, History, Movies, Museums, Reading, Theater, Travel, Writing
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The physical activities I'm interested in are:
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Camping, Hiking/Backpacking, Swimming, Walking
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For fun I like to...
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Write, cook ambitious dinners for friends and neighbors, walk in the woods, swim at midnight.
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My favorite movies:
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The Graduate, Desk Set (in which Katherine Hepburn is appreciated only for her intellect and personality), The Usual Suspects, Youth.
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My favorite music:
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Leonard Cohen, Joni Mitchell, David Lang, early Bruce Springsteen, And now that I have grandchildren, I have a new appreciation for Raffie (when not cursing him for making me sing "Baby Beluga" compulsively).
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My favorite books:
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Graham Greene (a master of the defended human heart), CS Lewis, Barbara Kingsolver (for whom I have an even deeper appreciate, after I was attacked by safari ants in Rwanda. Twice.), Annie Dillard. Also Four Quartets, Walt Whitman, W.S. Merwin, John O'Donohue, Galway Kinnell, Howl.
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Values
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The virtues I consider most important are...
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Compassion, Open-Mindedness, Humility
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The things I'm most grateful for in life are...
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The opportunity to build a new life after what once seemed like an impossible loss. Strength, optimism, good friends and neighbors. An opportunity to write.
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My greatest accomplishments in life have been...
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I supposed I've accomplished a few things, but I don't really think in terms of accomplishments.
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Five or ten years from now, I see myself...
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I have no idea, and I embrace that lack of knowing.
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My political inclination can be described as...
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Liberal
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Spirituality
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Buddhist, Taoist, Spiritual, not religious
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I consider my spirituality...
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Very important to me
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What brought me to my spiritual path and motivated my interest...
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A path claimed me, after an overwhelming, and definitely unbidden, spiritual awakening. Much has happened since then, and I am deeply grateful for all of it, the challenges as well as the joys.
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I consider the purpose of my spirituality to be...
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Connecting to something greater than myself, Finding happiness and peace within, Helping me grow as a person
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After the body dies...
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I don't know, but I'm not worried about it
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A spiritual experience I would like to share...
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Not here, not now. But I will happily talk about my experience on the spiritual end of things with a like-minded person who is asking similar questions within their own life.
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The spiritual books and authors that have had the greatest impact on me...
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CS Lewis's A Grief Observed, Adyashanti, Carl Jung, William Blake.
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Who I'm Looking For
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I'm seeking a:
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Man (58 to 75)
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Ethnicity:
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Any
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Height:
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5' 3" to 7' 0" (160cm to 213cm)
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Body Type:
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Any
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Hair Color:
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Any
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He should speak:
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English
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Education:
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Bachelors Degree, Graduate Degree, PhD/Post Doctoral
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Annual Income:
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Doesn't Matter
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Smoking:
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No
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Drinking:
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Doesn't Matter
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Vegetarian:
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Doesn't Matter
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Has children:
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Doesn't Matter
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Wants children:
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Probably not, No
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Personality:
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Caring, Intuitive, Intelligent
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When out with friends, he would be...
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The talkative one, The quiet one, Trying to be a good listener
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Spiritual Orientation:
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Any
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